Dear Dwight and Tony,
My boss-- who’s a guy-- recently reprimanded me for dressing unprofessionally. I’m an administrative assistant, so I don’t make a zillion dollars and think I look good. Most days I wear sleeveless dresses– and, yes, they’re usually well above my knees, but not tight or low cut. He told me to cover more of my arms and legs. So, I guess my question is: What does a guy know about what women should wear to the office?
How to dress at the office is a problem for a lot of people these days. Most offices are more casual than when I first started in radio. Back in the Stone Age, a salesman dressed in $3,000 suits with cufflinks and tie pins, now, not so much. More offices have replaced cubicles with living room furniture and laptops, but it doesn’t sound like that’s your office.
Your boss wants you to step it up when it comes to your attire. The keyword is: boss. If this is a place you don’t plan on staying much longer, forget him and move on. But, if you want to stay and move up there you need to play the game. You can just throw a sweater over the sleeveless dress or, GO SHOPPING! Have you ever heard the expression “Dress for the job you want, not the job you have?” Bottom line is, he is the boss and can set the tone for office attire. Good luck.
Marsha, Marsha, Marsha! I went through the exact same thing when I got my belly button ring! I altered all of my dress shirts and ties so they would be shorter to show it off only to have upper management tell me that it’s not appropriate for the workplace.
You’re right, most men do not know anything about what a woman should wear in the office. My suggestion would be wear something that shows even more skin. Maybe that will distract him from your shoulders and legs. This could also lead to a parting of the ways between you and your boss, which might be what you want anyway. If you don’t like your boss’s concept of an appropriate dress code, my guess is you’d rather work someplace else. Start looking!
Dear Dwight and Tony,
I’m very friendly to the neighbors, always saying hello when I see them out and about. This one guy who lives across the street is always friendly back except when his wife is out in the yard with him. Well, yesterday he walked across the street when I was pulling weeds and said, “Hey, do you want to get together?” I said, “I’m in a relationship… and I know you are too.” Now he never waves to me-- whether he’s working in his yard alone or with his pregnant wife. Now I’m wondering: Was I being rude?
Hate to break this to you but there is a jerk living across the street from you. Don’t worry, a lot of times when you ignore these types of jackasses they will return the favor. If you are a religious woman pray for this guy to figure what is important – his wife and the family he is creating with the arrival of a new baby.
First of all, the only reason I do NOT speak to you when my wife and I are together in the yard is because I am usually busy. I am also listening to the smooth sounds of the Commodores on my Sony Walkman (the fancy yellow sports edition that’s waterproof). I think you misunderstood me when I said, “Do you want to get together?” I didn’t want to talk, I was wanting to have a fling with you. I am so sorry for the misunderstanding.
Your friend. . . and more,
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